Birth Story

There are moments in life that change you forever. The day your child is born is one of them—a breathtaking, overwhelming, heart-expanding moment when life shifts in ways you never imagined. And yet, as time rushes forward, the details start slipping through the cracks. The emotions soften, the memories blur. That's why writing your child's birth story is not just a story—it's a profound act of preserving their life's beginning and the moment you became their person. Since you are the one who can best convey the spirit of this momentous occasion, your role in this act is vital.

The story that started it all: writing your child's birth story

The little details that mean everything

You may think you'll never forget how their first cry sounded, the warmth of their tiny body against your skin, and how time seemed to stand still in that sacred moment. But life happens. Days turn into years. And one day, you'll want to reach back and relive it all—every contraction, every deep breath, every second of magic that brought them into the world.

A love letter to your child

Imagine your child, years from now, reading about the day they arrived—the anticipation, the chaos, the quiet moments in between—the way you whispered their name before they even opened their eyes—the tears in your voice when you said, "You're here." Your words will be a love letter that reminds them how fiercely they were wanted and how deeply they were loved from the very start.

Writing to remember, writing to heal

Birth can be beautiful, but it can also be intense, unexpected, and even challenging. Writing it down is not just a way to remember but also a powerful tool for healing. It empowers you to process, reflect, and find meaning in every part of the experience. It reminds you of your strength and courage, the way you met the unknown with open arms, and it gives you a sense of control over your narrative.

A story that becomes legacy

This story isn't just for now—it's for generations. One day, your child may tell it to their children, passing down the words, emotions, and love. This story becomes part of something bigger, a thread in the tapestry of your family's history, creating a sense of continuity and connection. By writing and preserving this story, you are contributing to the rich tapestry of your family's history.

A story that can help you understand yourself and your behaviour

As a perinatal therapist, I require any memories of the primal period to be included in the therapy journey because in that time, imprints happen. Suppose we know details about conception, pregnancy, birth, and the first year of life. In that case, we can find explanations in behavioral patterns, mindsets, traumas, and repetitive moments that run in the family. Unfortunately, not many people can present their birth story in detail and respond to my in-depth questionnaire. Yes, it makes my therapeutic work harder and creates sadness both ways, as it shows that the beginning of life in this family wasn't honored well enough.

How to capture the magic

1. Start with feeling. What were your emotions in the moments before birth? Excitement, fear, joy?

2. Describe the scene. Where were you? Who was with you? What details stand out?

3. Write the turning points. The intensity, the relief, the first breath, the first touch.

4. Share your heart. What did this moment teach you? How did it change you?

5. Seal it with love. How did it feel to see your child for the first time?

One day, you'll look back and realise this was the day everything began. Your child's birth story isn't just about birth—it's about love, transformation, and the beautiful collision of two souls meant to find each other.

So, please write it down, hold it close, and never let the story that started it all fade away. 

p.s. A written birth story can be a great birthday gift for your child, no matter how old they are. It is never too late. It can be a story wrapped in a book with lots of pictures (if you have some), it can be a narrative with your voice embedded in a PowerPoint presentation, or it can be a movie with both—your recorded voice, pictures and videos.